Connection

This essay unpacks why the body clings to almost-love—the futures we imagined but never lived. Through neuroscience, psychology and emotional truth, it explores why letting go hurts more than we admit, and how the nervous system finally learns to release what was never real.

There is nothing more humiliating than loving someone who makes you feel like a temporary guest in a life you desperately want to belong to. This long-form piece unpacks the neuroscience, psychology and emotional history behind feeling ‘never enough’ in love — and why your body reacts as if heartbreak is a threat to survival. Here’s what’s actually happening inside you, and how to finally break the cycle.

We try to manage love like a business plan — tracking effort, timing and return. But what happens when control becomes the very thing that kills connection? The Surrender Theory explores the neuroscience and emotional complexity of letting go in love — and why it might be the most courageous thing you ever do.